The Power of Words
THE POWER OF WORDS
Our thoughts, internal dialogue and self-talk can have a tremendous effect on whether we achieve our goals or not. Very often, without even realising, we unwittingly set ourselves up for failure. We do this even before we start something. We have already decided on the outcome. Sound familiar?
Everyone has experienced that little negative voice in their head at some point in their life. But once you learn to positively change the way you think about a situation, you can set yourself up to SUCCEED. It’s like turning a switch ‘on’ and ‘off’. Turning it on to ‘positive’ and turning the ‘negative’ off.
CHANGE YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE AND SELF-TALK
Consider what your negative self-talk is. Become aware of the negative internal dialogue and bring it into your conscious awareness. This is the first step in dealing with this unwanted self-talk. Then place a positive statement right alongside that negative self-talk. Let go of the negative statement and replace it with the positive statement.
You don’t need to completely eliminate all unproductive or negative thoughts. That would be an exercise in futility and would lead to frustration and a more pessimistic view in the long run. Instead, get into the habit of thinking more positively about things. After a while you will start to automatically think more positively.
A popular method of influencing your thoughts with words is by using affirmations. The way you form affirmations is very important and many people are unaware of this fact. Affirmations are highly effective when written in the correct way and can be very detrimental if written without much thought and consideration. Here are some tips to keep in mind whilst creating your affirmations:-
FRAME YOUR AFFIRMATION IN THE PRESENT TENSE
If you affirm that you are “going to” achieve something in the future, then your mind will work on keeping it in the ‘future’. You don’t want to be forever “going to” achieve something do you? You want to frame it in the ‘now’ and the present tense, as if you’ve already achieved it. Here’s an example with wanting to lose weight.
Positive Result: I am at my goal weight. I am getting slimmer and slimmer every day. (Words to use: I am, I will, I can, and I choose.)
Negative Result: I will lose weight. [Yes that’s what you want to achieve! But, without a time frame being set there is no immediate goal. Does this mean next year?] (Words not to use: I hope, I will try, and I should. ‘These all signify failure’).
USE POSTIVE WORDS
Always frame what you are going to say in a positive manner. This is to ensure the instruction is carried out with the best possible intention. Here’s an example:-
Positive: “I eat healthy and nutritious food that tastes great”. (Remember that positive words reinforce your thought and ideas).
Negative: I won’t eat junk food today. (Negative words reinforce the thought and idea that you cannot succeed. The mind ‘deletes’ the negative word ‘won’t’ and the instruction is carried out and you eat the junk food! And that is exactly what you wanted to avoid.)
MAKE IT BELIEVABLE
Add something to establish that you have already completed all or at least a part of your goal. It makes it more believable to the ‘subconscious’ mind. Your subconscious mind is more likely to integrate this into your existing belief rather than dismiss it. For example, if your goal is to be more confident, say “each day I grow more and more confident”.
The power to change the way you think is in your hands. You can take control of your negative self-talk and start to think in ways that move you towards your goals rather than away from them.
MAKE IT COMPELLING
Remember to keep your affirmation in the present tense. Make it compelling and exciting. Make it achievable by adding a date for your desired outcome. Update your affirmations as your goals and aspirations change.
MAKE IT HAPPEN
Say your affirmation out loud to yourself at least twice a day. Place it somewhere that you will see it every day. Make a habit of saying it once in the morning after you wake up, and once before you go to sleep. This way you will start your day off with a clear vision of your goals, and at night your subconscious mind can meditate on your goals.
Dream big! Make your dreams a reality.